Let us help you with those first meetings.

• It’s advisable to meet on neutral ground and not in your own home. Arrange to meet in a public area such as a café, hotel or wine bar/pub. Don’t give out surnames initially or divulge unnecessary personal or financial information.

• Do be punctual - it’s discourteous to be late, however should the delay be unavoidable call your date as soon as you can and advise them accordingly.

• Dress to impress. A sloppily casual dresser with dirty shoes is a big turn-off! You don’t get a second chance to make an impact, so make the most of yourself.

• Try not to focus too much on your membership or become too intense about potential dates. Experience has shown those members who have a fun and relaxed manner are undoubtedly more successful with finding that special partner. Amazingly there are many successful people who have no idea how to remove the business persona and become fun and light-hearted.

• Don’t talk endlessly about failed relationships. Respect the confidentiality of members you have met. Don’t discuss your previous meetings with a new date – you will be seen as indiscreet and unkind.

• Widowed people are often still in love with their late partner, however now is not the time to mention how wonderful he/she was. The effect may be counter productive resulting in a potential new partner feeling they have too much of a hard act to follow.

• Some people see it as interesting and convivial if they talk constantly about themselves – they couldn’t be further from the truth! You’ll be far more attractive and desirable if you show a genuine interest in someone. Ask them about themselves and family/friends. Show yourself as an equal in a relationship; don’t be boorish or overbearing.

• Men should not be expected to pick up the tab. Ladies should offer an equal share of the bill until a relationship has been established.

Moving on and letting Us Know

• Often chemistry takes time to develop in a relationship, so don’t expect “butterflies in the tummy” immediately! Experience has shown many successful partnerships started on a platonic, friendly basis.

• First meetings can be a little daunting and most people are more relaxed on a second date, therefore you can get to know someone better by meeting again.

• Be kind and sensitive to others when discussing the possibility of a second meeting. Please don’t promise to phone someone unless you mean to. It’s best to be honest about the way you feel. Accept the decision graciously if a negative one, try not to dwell on it and move on.

• We can match our clients according to approximate guidelines. The service is not an exact science and only the chemistry can make a relationship work. We are unable to predict this essential ingredient so if the “spark” isn’t there let us know and we’ll look for someone else for you to meet. Whilst waiting for the magic to happen, enjoy your meetings and make new friends in the process.

• Please supply us with feedback following your meetings so we can indicate on your file how your membership stands. Due to data protection regulations we are unable to pass on personal comments or feedback from our members which relate to their meetings.